Brides often fail to realise the importance of involving their fiancés in the planning of the wedding. They believe that all that is expected of a groom is to show up in a nice suit at the appropriate time on the day of the wedding. Planning a wedding together can however be a wonderful way of strengthening your relationship. It provides an opportunity to dream about your future together, work out a budget and stick to it, get to know each other’s strengths, preferences and tastes as well finding ways to accommodate each other’s opinions. Talk to your husband to be and make him aware that you want him to be part of the process. If you are lucky, he will respond positively and jump on board. But even if he lacks enthusiasm at first, do not be discouraged and keep on reading.
Acknowledge his ideas and support and encourage him even if it means that you will have to make some sacrifices along the way. This is not the time to be a control freak. Give him the chance to choose a wedding song or let him help design the wedding invites. And who said that you should make all the phone calls to wedding suppliers? Men are often better than expected at taking care of the details. One bride admitted to her surprise, that her groom confidently talked about the table linen and chair covers with the wedding coordinator and was obviously interested in much more than just the content of the menu. That encouraged her to discuss other things with him that she assumed he would not want to be bothered about.
Be wise in the way that you attempt to involve him in the planning though…The wedding should not become the only topic that the two of you talk about. Don’t bombard the poor man with questions and ideas whenever you get together. Don’t forget that the planning of your wedding should also be fun, even for the groom! Take him to your favourite bar during a quiet time and let him choose a signature cocktail. Enjoy the time together and try the combinations that your caterer has suggested. If your guy is a musician, let him choose a song for walking down the isle or if he likes the spotlight..hand him a microphone!
Cake tasting is always an enjoyable event and the groom should certainly not object to being involved in the final decision. Order a groom’s cake and incorporate his favourite hobby in the visual design of the cake. Send a gift to his residence the night before the wedding. Let the venue prepare his favourite breakfast on the morning of the wedding with a love letter attached. Hold his hand and whisper sweet nothings in his ear the very first time the two of you manage to be alone together. Saviour each moment of your engagement, have fun and remember that a marriage goes far beyond the actual wedding day.
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