How and when you’ve met
Patrick and I met each other at the Deloitte Johannesburg office where we both worked. In the canteen one afternoon of all places while having lunch with friends, then Patrick moved to the US for 6 months and 40 000 WhatsApps later (yes they were counted, automatically) we went on our first date. The rest is history. We dated from that day onwards and have now all in all know each other for four years.
Why you’ve decided to do a destination wedding
An acquaintance of mine got married at the villa five years ago and I remeber always thinking I would love to do something similar, we got intouch with her and the villa and even though she had a much smaller wedding party we arranged extra accommodation close by. Italy was very romantic… What better setting can you think of for a destination wedding?
Something about the wedding day
We wanted a minimalistic wedding. Our main focus was friends, family, love and having a good time. The flowers for the table and ceremony was hand picked from the garden of the villa on the day of the wedding. My mother lead the décor with her amazing creative eye and love for everything pretty. We really did go for “less is more” and loved it. The venue itself was part of our décor as the backdrop of our dinner table. Italy is so rich with history it all added to the décor.
The idea for the wedding came about as a combination of fairy tales. We had attended 19 weddings together and wanted something completely different and unique to us. Simple, yet elegant and a longer celebration, and so the idea was born. We wanted our closest family and friends to gather at a villa in the small town of Villa Bartolomeo, south of Verona and in the heart of the Lombardy wine fields. The wedding was reminiscent of “the good old days.” The ancient villa provided the perfect backdrop for the ceremony.
I had a vision about this day and many people were skeptical. Patrick and I pulled off not only an incredible fairy tale wedding we created an experience that made memories for a lifetime. Our wedding could not have been more perfect. The wedding was filled with laughter, happy tears and lots of love and that was what we wanted it to be not only to us but to everyone who attended. Our entire evening was perfect from the weather to the reception to the friends and family who shared it with us. Have a small intimate wedding was definitely the top point of our wedding. Getting to spend quality time with people who make an impact in our lives as a couple was super special.
The high and lows
Highs all week long, the low would have been that the weeks celebrations just flew by. I would want to do it all over again in slow motion.
List, list and even more excel spread sheets. Double check everything and get your partner involved. Patrick was involved all the way. This is definitely advise I would give. So many grooms joke about it but really just arrive on the day. This is your day as a couple and doing everything together gives you two sets of eyes to check things and even if most men say they don’t care, trust me they do! This makes it special, you are both on the same page financially and there are no surprises on the day for either one.
Having a four day celebration as a must for us and all our guests understood this by the end of the week. Interacting with the group for four days made the festivities last longer and our guests really got to know each other and how everyone fits into our lives. We also created a website where all our guests were featured with a short pharagraph of how they fit in so most guests knew each other even before arrival. Sitting with friends on the wedding night is a must it is so much fun and gives the parents a chance to spend time with there friends. The most incredible thing I did for myself and for the wedding as a whole that worked really well was I went for a minimalistic look, flowers from the garden, candles, a dance floor and an incredible backdrop made for an absolute fairytale evening. Less is definitely more!
How do you see a happy marriage
Being honest is definitely key. We give each other a lot of freedom to do social activities separately eg: golfing, girls spa day. Spending time apart is also important. We love spending quality time with family and friends and we always have each other’s backs 😉 And to just love each other daily even when it is not the easiest thing to do at the time.
Wedding dress: Bridal Manor