Falling asleep, sleeping and staying asleep can be a challenge all on its own. So, when you have to share a bed with another person things can get really interesting and tiring. Society mostly talks about how amazing being married is and the great big adventure that lies ahead of you and your partner after the honeymoon. However, we well-intentionally skip over the compromises that need to be made in order to ‘live happily ever after’.
There are many rooms in your new home that will require some degree of compromise, but the only room that truly necessitates it is the bedroom. Not only for the well-being of your marriage but also for your health. Here’s how to handle those difficult topics that creep up at the night:
You have different mattress preferences
It’s a story as old as time – you like your bed soft and bouncy, he prefers his bed firm and steady. At The Bed Shop, we’ve found that gel memory foam mattresses like our Dynamic Orthopedic Superior Gel bed can bring many couples to a compromise. It’s plush, but also offers superior support and comfort. Memory foam mattresses also have the added benefit of no movement transfer. That means you won’t even know that you’re sleeping next to someone else, even if they like to run a 10k in their sleep.
If that still doesn’t work, you will have to go single and convert. To be clear we’re talking about the beds and not your marriage. You can each choose a single mattress to your liking and convert it into a king-sized bed using a bed converter available from The Bed Shop. This is sneaky little trick hotels love to use to make bedrooms adaptable to their guests’ needs.
They keep hogging all the blankets
Why have one when you can have two? If you or your partner wake up tired every morning from constantly having to grab a piece of duvet then it’s time to divide and conquer. It might also be that your partner wants to sleep under a light blanket, while you prefer a feathered duvet. If you both need your own blanket or duvet in order to get a good night’s rest then we say go for it! You can keep it tidy and unified during the day by making your bed with a beautiful quilt.
Your partner snores
Snoring is no joke, especially if you’re the one not snoring. According to the National Sleep Foundation, around 90 million American adults snore. The prevalence only gets worse with ageing. For many couples, constant snoring can bring them and their relationship to a breaking point. If your partner’s snoring is brought on by a cold or flu and you have to consider sleeping in a different room for a few nights it’s a short-term and easy compromise. But if the snoring is a sleeping dilemma you face every night, you might need to consider getting help from outside. A firmer mattress and pillow can offer better support and open airways, but snoring might also be a sign that you or your partner suffer from sleep apnoea, a condition that basically means that you stop breathing in your sleep. Sleep apnoea can have serious long and short-term health risks so make sure to speak to your family doctor.
You have different routines
This is actually an easy one. If you like to go to bed early and sleep-in while your partner prefers it the other way around, then you’ll have to mindful of each other’s routines. We believe our mothers’ still call it good old common courtesy – don’t go bashing around the room, putting on music, switching on all the lights or snooze the alarm five times. Go to bed quietly and wake-up when the alarm goes off. Like we said it’s easy – just be considerate.