You’re Engaged, Now What?
The love of your life just proposed, and you’re on cloud nine! Whether he got down on one knee at home with just the two of you or created a grand public gesture, this is such a happy moment. The excitement of being engaged is overwhelming in the best way, and it can be difficult to even know where to begin. Once you’ve said yes, make sure to follow these steps to start planning the wedding of your dreams:
You’re getting married! That’s a big deal, so after you’ve both called your parents and close family and friends, shout it from the rooftops! You’ve probably dreamed of the day when you could start saying “I’m engaged!”, so take advantage of it. If you’re into social media, announce your engagement so all of your friends know the good news and let the congratulations start coming your way!
Get your nails done
As soon as people hear you’re engaged, the first thing they’re going to do is grab your hand to see your ring. You don’t want your nails to look like a mess, so go to your favorite nail salon and treat yourself to a manicure with a nail color that will show off your engagement ring. Your nice, painted nails will complement the new jewelry on your left hand, and you won’t be able to stop taking pictures of that bling!
Get your ring insured
If your new fiancé didn’t already, make sure to get your engagement ring insured. You might never need to use the insurance, but it’s better to be safe than sorry. Here’s everything you need to know about insuring your ring before you pick a policy, and you can add the insurance to your existing homeowners or renters insurance for an inexpensive option. You and your fiancé will be able to rest assured that your ring is in safe hands.
Whether friends or family throw an engagement party, or you and your friends just go out for drinks, make it a point to celebrate your new engagement before all the planning starts! It’s easy to want to invite everyone you know to an engagement party, but be sure not to include anyone you’re not going to be inviting to your wedding. It will send mixed signals to anyone who won’t ultimately be on the guest list, and they’ll be left wondering why they didn’t get an invitation.
Make a budget
After you take a couple weeks of just enjoying being engaged with your new fiancé, take a deep breath and dive right in. The most important thing to do before you start any planning at all is to set a budget. First, you’ll have to decide who will be paying for the wedding and decide what everyone can afford and how you’ll be paying for the wedding costs. Your first instinct might be to charge the expenses to your credit card, but the high-interest option might not be the best for you. Look into getting a personal loan for your wedding to cover some of the costs and keep you on budget.
Pick your wedding party
Now that you’re ready to start planning, you and your fiancé need to start thinking about who you want to be a part of your wedding. One thing to remember: just because someone had you in their wedding party, that doesn’t mean you have to reciprocate and include them in yours. A big bridal party might seem appealing, but your wedding is not a popularity contest. You don’t have to have 10 bridesmaids to prove your friendship, so use these tips to help pick your wedding party. Limit your wedding party to family only and have your sisters, or just include a few of your closest friends.
Write your guest list
Now that you know what you can afford for your wedding, come up with a number of guests you’re able to have and start making your guest list. Make sure to include the people who mean the most to both you and your fiancé, and don’t invite anyone you’ve lost touch with. It’s crucial not to invite anyone out of obligation, as this is a day you want to be surrounded by the ones you love and care about. If you’re having trouble deciding who to invite to your wedding, check out how to decide who does and doesn’t get an invite.
Look at venues
Once you’ve decided who to invite to your wedding, you can start looking at venues that can accommodate the number on your guest list. If you want to have your ceremony and reception at the same location, see if any venues have packages that include both. Make sure to have a general date decided before looking at venues so that you’re sure the locations you’re interested in have availability for when you’re looking to get married.
Pick a date
Once you’ve picked a venue, you’ll be able to pick a date that the location has available, which is a really exciting part of wedding planning. You’ll finally have an answer to the common question: “When are you getting married?” Now that you have your date, you can book a photographer to take engagement photos and start sending out your save the dates to all of your guests. With your wedding date picked out, it all will start to feel real, and you can start planning all of the other details!
Remember to stay calm
There’s a lot that goes into planning a wedding, and you’re going to have a few breakdowns along the way. It’s important to remind yourself during the planning process what really matters: you’re marrying the person you love. The details make for a beautiful wedding, but what’s really the focus of the wedding is the joining of you and your soon-to-be spouse. Take a step back when needed and don’t become a bridezilla that everyone has to walk on eggshells around. This is the best day of your life you’re getting ready for, so enjoy it!