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While the food, decor and music are important, far too little attention is given to ensuring that the speeches are both meaningful and memorable. Interestingly, research shows that the one thing people remember most about weddings are the speeches – either for their riveting content or rambling irrelevance!
While you big day may loom a long way ahead, it’s never too early to start working on your speech. Bear in mind that as your wedding approaches, you will have innumerable last minute details to attend to, like allocating seating, transport arrangements etc. This is NOT a good time to start writing, what will most likely be the most important speech you will ever have to make!
10 THINGS TO AVOID WHEN WRITING YOUR WEDDING SPEECH
- Never start by making an excuse, (unless it’s genuinely funny) or introducing yourself. If you have an MC, or you’re the bride or groom, your guests know who you are!
- Avoid thanking people by reading out long lists of names. There are many ways to summarise lists of names to ensure that this doesn’t detract from the overall impetus of your speech.
- Beware of over-sharing: While the story you plan to tell might be hilarious for a dinner party, your wedding is neither the place nor time to embarrass the best-man, groom or fretful mother in law!
- Avoid the temptation to download from the internet syrupy professions of love, which can sound pretentious, weird and non-authentic to you.
- Avoid telling tired jokes, or reciting cheesy poems that will make you sound silly and lacking in substance.
- Try to avoid using cliche’d platitudes, like “I must be the luckiest person I know.”
- Unless you can make it funny, don’t use pretentious quotes that don’t have any special significance to you or your spouse.
- Avoid giving long lists of your bride or groom’s attributes and skills. This can come across as boastful or tedious if not handled with charm and finesse.
- Avoid long, self-indulgent, long-winded meanderings on something which is of interest only to you e.g. the astrological significance of your meeting date or wedding date.
- Ideally, your speech should not last longer than 7 minutes. Time yourself, and check with the other people who are speaking, to ensure that all the speeches collectively do not take up too much time away from the actual celebration/ whole evening.
Remember that you only have one chance to get it right.
Message Toby Shenker on facebook at https://fb.me/Sweetspotspeeches or call 0839495579 if you’d like to make your speech writing process creative, thought-provoking, focused and fun.
Let’s collaborate to ensure that your speech hits the sweet spot!